Let's call it, Dysfunctamentalism: an affliction of the dysfunctional who is drawn to, and overzealously adheres to, a fundamentalist ideology.
Incognigo Montoya
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My brother is shunning me (but he's not a Witness)
by john.prestor ini didn't know where to post this but it's been on my mind and i'm looking for support and advice from people who know what it's like being shunned.
i was raised in a fundamentalist baptist church, so what i'm experiencing is a little different than most posters on this site.
i've been out of that church for years, and my brother's been out for a while too.
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My brother is shunning me (but he's not a Witness)
by john.prestor ini didn't know where to post this but it's been on my mind and i'm looking for support and advice from people who know what it's like being shunned.
i was raised in a fundamentalist baptist church, so what i'm experiencing is a little different than most posters on this site.
i've been out of that church for years, and my brother's been out for a while too.
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Incognigo Montoya
To Amelia Ashtons point; There are a great many Disfunctional families in the world. Their dysfunction has nothing to do with religion, but a great many of them seem drawn to cults and fundamentalist groups. This only succeeds in magnifying the dysfunction. Crazy family is crazy family. He doesn't want you in his life? Best to count your blessings and walk away.
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Just a Rant .......
by LOLS inhi beautiful people ..... so today is my wedding anniversary ....... .
and first of all my dear husband forgot again .... which is normal according to my dear old dad "it's a man thing " .
but to add insult to injury , i must wait till friday to be taken out for dinner , because low & behold my jdub husband can't miss one bloody jw meeting !
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Incognigo Montoya
I wouldn't necessarily attribute his forgetting to being a JW. He may have "forgotten" because he's a JW, and you're an UBM, and he may just have really just forgotten. Also, as tiki pointed out, many people put off a personal weekly holiday celebration (anniversary, birthday), and prefer to celebrate the occasion on a weekend, where they can relax and enjoy it without the stress and demands of a regular work day interfering. This does not keep a husband, however, from wishing his wife a "happy anniversary", giving her flowers, or doing/giving some other little affectionate token on their actual anniversary.
You didn't specify anywhere that I saw, is he a busy guy? Does he have a demanding job? Is he sometimes forgetful? Any unusual stress factors come up in his life recently? These all could be reasons he forgot.
I am not a marriage counselor, nor would I ever presume to know your complete situation, but from what you've posted I will say this. It's obvious from your recent posts that you are struggling with him. Imo, this post seems like you are looking for a reason to find fault and attribute it to his being a JW. Perhaps you should take some time and consider whether or not you still love him and want to remain his wife. If so, maybe some counseling is in order. Understand, I am not saying this is your fault whatsoever. From your previous post in reference to him and your marriage, he is the one who's made a drastic change by going back to being a JW. That's really not fair to you. Your hurt and blame are completely understandable. But it's not healthy to allow those feelings and thoughts to fester until it becomes gangrenous and causes irreparable damage.
I sincerely hope you find a way to work things out.
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Too Many Categories That Most People Fall Into ... L G B T Q C G D ... I Get Confused
by RubaDub init seems like we are all getting pigeon-holed into a category that may or may not be applicable to us.
personally, i am a "d" but i am sure there are a few (though statistically insignificant) who would otherwise fall into an "o" or other category.. it just seems like society needs to label us in the l g b t q c g d communities.. rub a dub.
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Incognigo Montoya
😆
Forgive me, Rub a Dub, I am new here. Lol
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Fast food delivery service?
by The Fall Guy inafter seeing this, i think i'll just go and collect it myself!.
watch the video in the article - and imagine that it was you who was waiting for this food.. https://www.bbc.com/news/world-asia-46522548.
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Incognigo Montoya
😂 can't a hungry guy just get a bite or two?
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Too Many Categories That Most People Fall Into ... L G B T Q C G D ... I Get Confused
by RubaDub init seems like we are all getting pigeon-holed into a category that may or may not be applicable to us.
personally, i am a "d" but i am sure there are a few (though statistically insignificant) who would otherwise fall into an "o" or other category.. it just seems like society needs to label us in the l g b t q c g d communities.. rub a dub.
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Incognigo Montoya
Incidentally, what is a "D"?
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Too Many Categories That Most People Fall Into ... L G B T Q C G D ... I Get Confused
by RubaDub init seems like we are all getting pigeon-holed into a category that may or may not be applicable to us.
personally, i am a "d" but i am sure there are a few (though statistically insignificant) who would otherwise fall into an "o" or other category.. it just seems like society needs to label us in the l g b t q c g d communities.. rub a dub.
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Incognigo Montoya
If people truly want to be accepted and equal, there are no catagories. It seems, in today's society, People want to be unique without actually working hard at finding themselves, so they allow others to pidgeon hole them. Then they want to tell their story, or push the envelope a bit more, in an effort to stand out. Ironically, It's all really a matter of being a follower.
I judge others on how they present themselves, their actions, and how they fit into my life. I like and or dislike people based on that criteria. Not based on their sexual orientation, or gender, or color of their skin. In fact I like people a whole lot more when they refuse to make any of those things a factor in who they are. They stand out based on their talents or good deeds, hard work, and refuse to let society's ever changing catagories, define them.
IMO, anyone who let's their sexual orientation define them, are pretty shallow and have an awful lot to learn about themselves.
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Caleb and Sophia app?!?!?
by DATA-DOG inwtf???
i didn’t know this was a thing.
is someone making significant money from this?
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Incognigo Montoya
Dont forget that many apps are created over seas, places like China, Indonesia, Taiwan, etc, that don't acknowledge US copyright laws and look for any and every niche and avenue, to make money. This could even be someone with more sinister intentions...
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My sister passed away this evening
by smiddy3 init was only about two months ago she was diagnosed with lung cancer and she was a non smoker .. she was never a jw and she never held it against me that i was for 33 years.. we had a good relationship even though we lived in different states about 2000 miles apart,.. tears are rolling down my cheeks as i type this .
r.i.p.
sylvia .
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Incognigo Montoya
My condolences to you and your family. I hope great memories of her soon fill the hole in your heart.
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Incognigo Montoya
We could keep going. Take Sunday for example. Day of the Sun. Derived from astrology. Perhaps they should refer to that day, and at least some of the other days of the week, as something else, given their pagan and astrological origins. And, while we're at it, why is their most important meeting held on Sunday?...